Most people who have gone through a divorce will often comment on the emotional stress it can cause. Even with an uncontested divorce, having to part ways with a partner you have had for years can make transitioning into the single life a challenge. Despite being legally divorced, ex-spouses who have completed an uncontested divorce tend to have a better post-divorce relationship when compared to those who had a contentious contested divorce. There are three main reasons why an uncontested divorce helps you to preserve the relationship you have with your soon-to-be ex-husband or wife.
- You can openly negotiate the terms of the divorce that work best for both parties. With an uncontested divorce you will be (and should be) able to discuss the conditions and terms of your divorce with your spouse. Since a lengthy legal process will not be involved, you do not have to worry about an outside party (a.k.a. judge) determining what he or she thinks is best for you. In this way, you are able to have a constructive dialogue with your spouse and their legal team to ensure that the two of you settle on agreeable terms.
- The divorce can be handled amicably without pointing fingers. A contested divorce can get ugly and expensive very quickly. Since you would be fighting for your case, in this type of divorce, emotional warfare of sorts may be fair game. You may have “dirty laundry” aired, if it helps your spouse prove their case and vice versa. Not only is a contested divorce harsh on your pockets, but the emotional damage done could make it hard for you to repair your relationship with your ex-spouse. On the other hand, an uncontested divorce is often handled outside of a courtroom and does not turn into a “knock out, drag ‘em out” fight. The quicker you can get to the terms of your divorce, the faster you can begin to emotionally heal and move on.
- An easier transition is possible for both parties. Not only will you have spent a lot less with an uncontested divorce, far less emotional damage has been done. Most couples who have taken this option are often able to cordially speak and interact with their ex-spouse without intense feelings of animosity or feeling like you “lost” the court case. If you have children, having a friendly, uncontested divorce is best. Especially with young children, you do not want to pit them against either parent or feel as if they have to hide information in fear of it being used in the court proceedings.
Divorce, whether uncontested or not is a process that can be emotionally draining. If you and your spouse mutually agree that a divorce is the best option and you believe you can work together to determine the terms of your divorce, then pursuing an uncontested divorce can be the right decision. In the end, being able to have an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse is always a win-win for everyone involved. If you are contemplating divorce and want to learn more about your options, schedule a free consultation Wilson Brown Law, LLC’s trusted uncontested divorce attorneys at 210-787-4637.